Finding Leadership Confidence Amid VUCA Moments –Part 2

Being honest about your reaction to pain



“…though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been grieved by various trials…”
-1 Peter 1:6

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One of the most unsettling grief experiences for church leaders is when their senior pastor abruptly leaves. Sorting through the debris of his choices and living with the repercussions that reverberate in the church, are part of the painful aftermath.

It’s not unusual for the leadership team to lack confidence in how to move forward. After all, who was prepared or trained for this trial?

Over the last 7 years I have been the intentional interim pastor at four different churches scattered literally from coast to coast. Three of these churches lost their senior pastor due to an affair. And in one of those churches the pastor also took his own life. So, I have had a front-row seat to watch boards and leadership teams struggle to lead with confidence during painful aftermath. (more…)

Finding Confidence Amid VUCA Moments -Part 1

When the Storms of Life Pummel you



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Earlier this summer in our city, Colorado Springs, a violent hail storm came over the Front Range and with little warning hit the world-class Cheyenne Mountain Zoo. Guests and staff dashed for cover as tennis ball-sized hail pummeled the facility.

The aftermath? Fourteen people were injured and went to the hospital, two zoo animals died, and over 400 cars in the parking lot were trashed with 4-inch dents and shattered windshields. All 3,400 zoo guests had to be bused to a local high school being used as a Red Cross Evacuation Center.

Imagine if you had been at the zoo that day! Your expectation of a wonderful outing turned disastrous. Now what? No car. How do we get back home or to our hotel? What about the rest of our vacation? How do we get our car repaired? If it was a rental, what’s the next step?

Leaders will have unexpected storms cut across their journey.

Life becomes stressful when thunderstorms pop-up unexpectedly. Likewise, occupy almost any leadership role long enough, and unexpected storms will cut across your journey in a most unwelcome way. (more…)

The Fallacy of Damage Control

When you're not sure how deep the rabbit hole goes



It is tempting for the church’s leadership team to go into damage control mode when their senior pastor abruptly departs. After all, it feels as if everything is coming unglued…so the need is to do something to withstand the storm!

But what is happening in the church after the moral implosion of your pastor is not a problem you can fix. Rather it is a season to shepherd.

This is the pivotal moment when a critical choice is made, and a series of realities is faced.

What is the critical choice?

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Leadership Myths about Abrupt Pastoral Transition

Subtle assumptions that hinder church recovery



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When a senior pastor abruptly exits a church, damage and turmoil begin to reverberate. Everyone experiences, to some degree, the combination of an earthquake and tsunami. People are first deeply shaken, then swept into the current of strong emotions. Myths about what the leaders should do next abound.

Typically, the church leadership team has not been prepared, or trained, to handle painful pastoral transition. Some act with wisdom and seek counsel because they suspect they don’t know what they don’t know about leading in this kind of environment.

In the first 90 days there are crucial decisions to make and subtle myths to avoid!

It’s a season of uncertainty and not unusual for confidence to be in short supply. Not only are there crucial decisions to make for the sake of the church in the first 90 days, there are also widely accepted myths that must be avoided at all costs!

After over 35 years of pastoral ministry and 7 of those years as an intentional interim pastor working with churches experiencing abrupt pastoral transition, let me give you my top 5 leadership myths. Each one of them will hinder a church from recovering well when the senior pastor abruptly leaves.

Myth #1: The sooner we can get another pastor in here, the better off we will be.

This is a business model being imposed on the church. It’s the mind-set that we can “hire our way out” of this problem. The church is not a business, but a body of believers, a family who is responding to the pastor’s departure like the death of a spouse. Believing that all the church needs is a new pastor, is like telling a widow whose husband died in a car wreck that getting a new car will make everything fine.

Myth #2: We can fix this and quickly move on. 

This myth sees the abrupt exit of the senior pastor as simply a problem to fix. But the grief reactions of the church are not problems to solve but wounds to heal (click here for more insight). The pastor’s hasty departure throws the whole church into a season of grieving transition. That season cannot be rushed or denied –it needs to be shepherded! For hopes, dreams, trust, and expectations have painfully died. People will need time and help to work through their grief.

Myth #3: The moral implosion of our former pastor is our only issue (otherwise we’re just fine).

The pain of what the former pastor did makes everyone want to distance themselves from the issue. The hard truth is that even though he is fully responsible for his moral choices, the church environment contributed in some measure to the sin. The transitional season is a good time to take a deep breath and with courage honestly evaluate the spiritual environment of the church and the leadership team. To accomplish that kind of healthy assessment the leadership team often needs to be guided by a trusted set of outside eyes.

Myth #4: As a leader I need to be strong for the church at this time.

The church does need strong leadership, but they also need to see that their leaders are deeply grieved by this. The pastor’s sin revealed that a cover-up in some form was occurring. All “looked” well in his life, but it wasn’t. Trust has been broken, and the need is for the church’s leaders to be transparent. Don’t hide how this has deeply hurt you. Let others see how you are a grieving leader. Lean on the promise of Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me”.

Myth #5: We shouldn’t publicly address grieving the loss of our pastor, for that just makes it worse.

1 Thessalonians 4:13 tells us, “…that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope.” Many have misunderstood this to mean the followers of Jesus don’t grieve. But that is not what Paul is saying. We do grieve, but we grieve with hope! To lament the harsh experiences of life is to be human and authentic in our relationship with the Lord. This season is a time to help those don’t know how to grieve to learn to do it in a biblical way. When we deny our grief, or try to just move on, we miss out on the wonderful opportunity to grow in our intimacy with the Lord.

Myths are attractive, for they offer a way of “making sense” of that which is puzzling and painful. They are also tempting, for they appear to give direction when uncertainty blankets our choices.

But myths are nothing more than traditions at best, and illusions at worst. Resisting these 5 as you lead your church through pastoral transition will position you, and the body you serve, to recover well and be ready for the next season of Christ-honoring ministry.

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“Leading Your Church When There’s Corporate Grieving”

How to confidently engage when you’d rather bolt!


When a senior pastor abruptly leaves the church, it typically leaves a painful aftermath for the leadership team to clean-up. But who feels adequately trained or prepared to confidently step into the mess?

It feels very similar when someone has died, and there will be a funeral. Who really enjoys being in those situations? We know we should be there, but we feel so awkward because we’re not sure what to do or what to say (and we’re nervous we’ll say or do the wrong thing).

That’s exactly the depth of uncertainty the leadership team faces when their senior pastor abruptly leaves. They need to be right where they don’t easily know what to say or what to do!

So how do we engage when we have the strong urge to escape? What does it look like to invest in others when our inclination is to withdraw? (more…)

Leading Outside Your Comfort Zone

When your pastor leaves and you’re above your pay-grade



When the senior pastor abruptly leaves his church, each member of the leadership team is shoved-out of their comfort zone. Who was prepared or trained to lead through this kind of chaotic transition? Most church leaders feel this is definitely out of their pay-grade!

Why is that our reaction? Why do we feel so awkward to lead in situations like this?

Let me ask, when was the last time you flew on an airplane? Remember the emergency exit instructions printed on that card in the seat-back pocket in front of you? The diagram describes what you do and where you go in case of an emergency (which you hope never happens). But what it doesn’t tell you is how it will feel to experience an emergency and how others will react!

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The Missing Key to Leading in Pastoral Transition

-How to shepherd well when your pastor abruptly exits


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High-level church leaders are smart, resourceful, godly, experienced, and most importantly they want what’s best for their body of believers. But when their senior pastor abruptly leaves, they are rudely shoved into a transition season they not only didn’t expect but weren’t trained to handle. It is so easy to miss the key element to leading in painful times of pastoral transition!

What is that key factor that church leadership teams can’t afford to miss? Let’s start with the obvious, and then drill-down to the ambiguous.

The hasty exit of a senior pastor is a sure signal something has gone terribly wrong.  It’s tragic when an accident or illness suddenly takes his life. It’s heartbreaking when he takes his own life, or when there is the moral implosion of an affair or his hand is caught in the financial cookie jar. And how sad when a pastor announces he is moving on to another ministry, and within days is gone.

What do all these potential scenarios of an abrupt departure have in common?

  • First, the church suddenly has a leadership vacuum: something has changed –he is gone.
  • Second, the fact that the pastor is physically gone embodies what is now missing.
  • And third, if something is missing (and won’t be coming back), then there has been a loss.

Pretty obvious stuff, right?

But it’s understanding and responding to what happens next that is often missed. The loss to the church is not just a loss of function (the bases he used to cover), but it’s a loss that is felt. And here is the often-missed key: when the church experiences loss, the church begins to grieve!

Effective leaders are mindful (both on a corporate and individual level) that change is seen as loss, and our hearts respond to loss by grief.

The church body is going to enter a season of grieving the loss of their pastor. Even if there was no sin involved, but especially if there was, grief will be the common experience. It is this corporate experience of grief which many church leaders underestimate. Its depth will be different for everyone, but its extent will cover most everyone.

To effectively lead in pastoral transition, the leadership team needs to take into account the impact grief will have on the church as a whole. To miss this is to inadvertently hinder the church from recovering from the tragedy.

How do church leaders lovingly address the impact of grief in their church? There are 4 realities about grief which leaders need to embrace. Each of these will help the church over time recover well:

1. Grief is not a problem to fix, but a wound to heal.

A grieving person is not broken. A person’s mourning is a time of recovery.

2. There is no one “right way” to grieve.

Personality, spiritual maturity, and how close they were to the epicenter of loss, all impacts the way in which a person grieves.

3. Everyone works through grief in their own timetable.

Though the stages of grief can be identified, each person will travel through the stages in their own time.

4. One’s current experience with grief has a way of reaching back into our past and bringing into the present all unresolved grief.

When grief isn’t effectively resolved, it compounds upon itself.

When the church leadership team recognizes, embraces, and communicates publicly these 4 truths about grief, it will start to normalize the grief process, and help a church work through it well. This is part of how a leader lovingly shepherds at a painful time!

By the way, if you’re not aware of the damage that is done in a church when it’s senior pastor leaves due to an affair, then sign-up to receive my email newsletter, and I’ll send you my free eBook that outlines the 28 ways a church is hurt.

And if what I’ve described above has unfortunately just happened in your church, and if your team could use someone coming alongside to walk with you as you start this pastoral transition, contact me at rick@interimpastor.org for resources that can be custom fit for your situation.

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New Resource -Music for the Grief Journey


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When a church experiences the abrupt departure of their senior pastor, major feelings of grief are triggered. For some people, the grief can be at a crisis or even trauma level. One resource TRM now provides is a recommended “play-list” of songs for the grief journey (click here).

Grief can’t be fixed. It is a wound and needs time to heal. But music with lyrics that emphasize strong biblical themes of hope can aid that healing. Go check it out!

Cultivate the Right Mindset

The first response of church leaders to their pastor's affair




You remember the moment all too well. Maybe it was a phone call, or a meeting face-to-face, but it left you shocked…shaken…and unnerved. You heard what you hoped you would never have to hear. Your senior pastor had an affair.

The decisions and choices the leadership team of a church makes in the first 60 to 90 days after the pastor’s affair determine how well the church recovers. But those who make up the leadership team, typically, have not been prepared or trained for this possibility. They honestly don’t know what to do next.

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When Your Pastor has an Affair

Sharpened Focus for Transition Resource Ministry

Most high-level church leaders are not prepared, or trained, to handle the abrupt departure of their senior pastor due to an affair. At the very moment, when feelings of inadequacy are overwhelming, the church they serve needs wise, loving, and godly proactive leadership. Yet who is competent for “such a time as this”?
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